Tuesday, January 10, 2012

My Husband Made Me Cry

Today is Abby's birthday...

15.

High school.

Driving Permits.

Growing up.


The teenage years, in many ways, remind me of the toddler years.

Everything seems in a great flux again.
The challenges sometimes seem daunting.
I never know what to expect from day to day.

But while we struggle with ridiculous things like going to bed at a reasonable hour
so we (she) can wake up, you know, before noon.

I get affirmation that things aren't as bad as our late bedtime makes me feel.

I knew that Abby's iPod only played sound through one earbud.

I asked her last year if she wanted a new iPod and 
she declined stating it was too much trouble to re-do all her playlists.

I asked her again this year.

"Would you like a new iPod?"

She replied, "No."

Me- "Why not??!!"

Abby said, "Mom, it's a luxury.  It still works.  It's only for my personal enjoyment.
I'm fine with only having one earbud that works."

At times like that, she puts me to shame.

***

She approached me a few months before her birthday and did ask for something.

She said, "Mom, I know it may be expensive. But, the only thing I want for my birthday this year is a purity ring.  But here's the thing.  I don't want some cheap $10 ring that says, "PURITY" across the front of it.  I want a real ring, with real, you know, diamonds or something.  A ring that truly represents that I value my relationship with Jesus and that I want to stay pure until I am married. I want to pick out a ring that I love and is beautiful."

And by our gracious Lord's provision, this winter Nana worked as temporary help at the Zales outlet store.

She found her ring.


So tonight, at Olive Garden, we played paper telephone and laughed loud enough to disturb tables around us.

And after desserts were brought out, my sweet husband got up from his chair...

and kneeled down in front of his baby daughter...

and said these words,

"Dearest Abigail, 
I kneel before you now as your earthly father and 
representative of your Heavenly Father 
to present you with this ring.  
This ring represents a covenant that you 
have made between Your Holy Bridegroom, Jesus, and you, His Holy Bride.

This represents a covenant of purity, of sanctification, of longsuffering, 
to keep God's Holy Temple which He has created in you, pure and undefiled.

God has already chosen an earthly husband that He has created just for you. 
This man will be your earthly covering, provider, best friend, 
and he will cherish you with all his heart.

This ring represents a place holder until the day 
your husband replaces it with your wedding ring.

You will know when God brings you this individual because you 
will have peace that surpasses all understanding. 
And God will easily communicate this to you if you stay in communion with God.

Enjoy the purity this rings represents.

We (gesturing to all of us) are your family and witnesses in this covenant.

Happy 15th Birthday."






 

9 comments:

Ann said...

oh...my...sniff sniff! I love you all!

Dawn said...

Lainie, one of our best friends used her purity to make her husband's wedding ring. It was one of the most special and meaningful things I have ever seen. That's our plan now for our kids...

Lainie said...

Oh, Dawn... that's awesome. How wonderful!

Amy B. said...

Ok...I'm in tears. Like, sobbing! How beautiful! Wow...just, Wow.

Pauline said...

simply wonderful :)

paul said...

quite awesome

Sherri said...

Can I copy and paste you husband's words into an email to my husband who says he isn't gifted with words?

he...he...my daughter will be 15 in August. This is inspiring.

Lainie said...

Sherri, you have my permission to email. But can I throw $.02 out there? You might want to just forward the link to the post and keep praying for him. My husband was never "good with words" either but continually tucking behind him allowed the Lord to do a work and grow him in that way. Just a thought...

Kim said...

So beautiful! The whole thing:-) The ring is amazing, your husband said it all, but I absolutely love the picture you posted of Abby. She is so beautiful and I love that her baby pics are behind her on the wall. That is what made me tear up:-)

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